If choosing a best man is hard enough (I’ve often wondered how you’re supposed to order friends in artificial hierarchy), actually being one is far, far trickier. How to write the ultimate best man's speech: tips from a serial wingman. Follow the author of this article. I have now given speeches at the weddings of four friends – without even always having been the best man. Once the groom refused to choose between his mates (a bit of a cop-out); another time I gave the speech at the smaller English event (yes, some lucky people really do have a double wedding, one at home, one abroad) and on a third occasion I stepped up to the microphone on the eve of the main event. Follow the topics within this article. But four wedding speeches I have undoubtedly given, which makes me something of an expert in an unlikely field.